Christian Influencer Thinks Assault Is Okay If You’re Dressed Immodestly

At what point are people going to start quoting the Bible and not their personal opinions?

Frankly, I find Solie Osorio sort of hilarious because she’s like not even 25, yet speaks as if she has some wealth of knowledge to share about marriage, children, etc. Job 12:12 says, “[w]isdom is with aged men, [a]nd with length of days, understanding.” Surely the Lord can and does empower young people with wisdom, but Solie is not wise, nor is what she’s saying backed with scripture. Fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, but that wisdom will never contradict or add to the Word of God either.

And nowhere in the Bible does God put the blame of grape (lol) on what someone is wearing. In fact, God basically says stone rapists in Deuteronomy. Adultery was also punishable by death for both the man and the woman, and this would include looking at pornography, or lusting after a woman. Porneia is a Greek word that basically means any sexual activity and is used in the Bible several times. Since all sexual activity outside of marriage is forbidden, if Solie was truly interested in being Biblically accurate here and not just sexist, she would blame both the man lusting and the woman dressed immodestly equally in her post. Tellingly, she does not which reveals this is just another pick-me type post, or worst some sort of trolling attempt, which is not very Godly and not what Christians should be known for online.

The Bible is what our faith is based upon and when Christians are consistently preaching things with nay a Bible verse in sight, that’s a red flag. Scrolling through Solie’s Instagram, 90% of it is personal opinions with sporadic Bible verses out of context. Troubling that she has such a large following of Christians when very little of what she says is backed by Scripture. It’s why it’s crucial to read your Bible daily and familiarize yourself with the Word of God, so when people preach Biblical clownery you already know what God has said.

In Matthew, Jesus puts the blame of lust squarely on the shoulders of those who are lusting. Jesus says not once, but twice to pluck your eyeballs out if you have an issue with lust. I’m not against dressing modestly even though Solie and I would probably disagree on what dressing modestly means. But I do have a lot of sympathy (particularly as I’m a very visual lady myself and no cap, I like looking at shirtless, hot men lol) towards men who are struggling in our hypersexualized culture. So I agree generally that as women (and men) we shouldn’t dress provocatively – just not for the sake of man, but because rather to honor the Lord.

That said, modesty teachings are the lazy way out of fostering self-control, particularly in regards to male sexuality. This is none more evident than among Christian men who seem even weaker than their secular counterparts in this area. Jesus says they will know us by our fruits; Galatians lists “self-control” as one of the fruits of the Spirit. Thus, evidence that one is actually a Christian isn’t in how they dress, how closely they follow gender roles, how early they marry and have kids, but rather in the fruit they produce. This is why Jesus further warns against wolves in sheep’s clothing – those that look the part but underneath all their prairie dresses, sourdough breads, and Christianese are actually producing bad fruit. Consequently, it’s perfectly reasonable to expect Christian men, who are tasked as being spiritual leaders (and this includes leading in the fruits of the Spirit) to exhibit self-control. Not only is it an expectation, but it’s the clearest evidence that a person is actually a Christian and not just using religion to live a certain lifestyle.

Nonsense like this discourages men from fostering self-control and is frankly the opposite of what the Bible actually says – in fact, it feels very boys will be boys, which is a very secular attitude. Here, modesty and purity culture serve as a band-aid to lust, and inevitably we’ll see Christian pastors and other prominent Christian men falling to sexual sin again and again, and Christians are always shooketh. But it’s nothing more than the fruit of what modesty and purity culture has produced over the years, which is telling. If one never learns to discipline themselves in the way of self-control, than they will stumble the minute they encounter anything outside of their carefully curated world of modesty, no leggings, and no cleavage. And as Christians we are told to be in the world, not of the world. But how are Christians to be in the world when they can’t even stand the sight of a woman in leggings?

Christians like Solie, Dale Partridge, and Owen Strachan’s answer to this is telling women to cover up and hide the way God literally made them. Again, a band-aid and these teachings are evidence of a lack of self-control in their own lives. Troubling because many of these folks are in authority over others. Yet the amount of times I’ve seen the women shouldn’t wear leggings debate brought up by Christians is remarkable. Far more time is spent telling women not to dress a certain way so that men don’t lust after them, which isn’t even in the Bible, as opposed to telling men to foster self-control, which is in the Bible. But ya know, the latter actually requires one to be a Christian and not just cosplaying as one, and I have a feeling a good many popular Christian influencers fall in the the second category.

Dressing modestly is great but it’s not the answer to lust. Nothing gives anyone else the right to assault them, whether they’re naked, or dressed like the Amish. And as for my dear sister in Christ, Solie, she may want to spend some time looking at the *probably should include a trigger warning* What I was Wearing Exhibit, and of course, a little more time reading her Bible.

Owen Strachan Continues To Not Know Anything: On Modesty

All leggings are tight.

So really he should be asking “Should Women Wear Leggings?”

However, why are Christian men constantly rehashing the same nonsense? Do they literally, with everything going on in the world, have nothing else to stew over besides their own issues with lust? Poverty? Human Trafficking? Racism? War? The fact our foster care system is underfunded and overburdened? Like a couple years ago Dale Partridge or whatever talked about this and the consensus was shut-up. Get your lust in check, practice the spiritual discipline of chastity in your own marriage, and stop watching porn.

Anyway, for someone who claims to be Biblical and exegetically correct, Owen is the gift that keeps on spouting culturally based personal opinions that are found nowhere in the Bible, such as stuff like women shouldn’t play sports. Cause ya know, when early Christian women were getting sawn in half and killed by the sword over the gospel, I’m sure they were spending hours angsting over heavy contact sports.

Now, I don’t really follow Owen in general, so I can’t really speak to his overall theology. This is (again) because of the above blog post which told me he was a Biblical clown twisting scripture, or just making stuff up, to suit his personal worldview.

Gentleness is not a trait only for women, it is a fruit of the Spirit all Christians should pursue and display, per Galatians which I assume Owen believes is part of the Bible. Men, as leaders, should be leading in gentleness, patience, kindness, and other fruits of the Spirit, per their supposed God-ordained placement as heads or spiritual leaders of their families. Being a leader means leading by example; it mean exemplifying the traits you want to see in those who follow you. It does not mean playing football and soccer. One does not need to be a theologian to see Owen is more interested in promoting patriarchy over Biblical truth. One only needs to read the Bible for themselves.

Here is another such example of Owen not knowing anything. Tellingly, Owen never defines modesty per the Bible. Historically, modesty standards have varied widely throughout history, and even from culture to culture. During Bible times, everyone wore robes though I have no doubt Owen would be the type to throw a fit over a male wearing a dress now.

The Bible makes no mention of modesty as pertains to clothing, but tells us that lust is an issue of the heart, and “if anyone looks at a women with lust, it’s better to gouge his own eyes out, than the whole body go into hell”.

I’m generally all for, within reason, doing what I can to not tempt my bros in Christ with my clothing. That said, the female body is not inherently sexual. Curves, hips, etc. which God gave women, are not things that needs to be hidden. Adam and Eve were born naked, it was only after sin that they covered up and it’s a shame Christian men, who should be the most free from sin, seem to struggle with looking at knees, shoulders, and legs even more than non-Christian men. It’s perhaps the most telling sign that purity culture and modesty rules don’t work.

If Christian men are unable to look at a woman in leggings without thinking impure thoughts, they should, per Jesus suggestions, get a spoon and start the digging their eyeballs out.

Modesty Culture Creates Weak Men

Was gonna blog about this when it was actually relevant but… anyway TL;DR: Utah Pastor Brian_Sauve is triggered women have bodies and sometimes post pictures of them online (even while pregnant), the sight of which is too much for his Christian flesh to handle.

So why is Pastor Brian following women who are posting bikini pics online?

Second, of all the issues in the world pertaining to women he could, as a man speak up against, such as the prevalence of domestic abuse in the church and elsewhere, sexual assault/harassment so widespread in the church alone it created a #churchtoo movement, rape, human trafficking… it’s bikini pics this guy decides to be righteously upset about. I’m sure the fact women have breasts (that God Himself gave us) would definitely top the Lord’s “what am I flipping tables over today?” list.

Tellingly, Utah Pastor Brian quotes nay a scripture anywhere because the Bible never instructs women to cover up over a man’s lack of self-control. Rather, lust is an issue of the heart, not an issue of what one wears, and Jesus said, “[a]nd if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell,” (Matthew 5:29, KJV).

Scripturally (and I assume as a Christian pastor, he has read and believes in the Bible), if Pastor Brian Sauvé can’t handle seeing women in bikinis, he should gouge his own eyes out. Or perhaps less violently, stop going online. Get rid of a smartphone, personal computer, and social media, and like maybe stop following women online who post these sort of pictures? Living a Christian life often requires radically changing the way one lives – just look at how Jesus lived. Yet swaths of Christian men seem to believe in a gospel that says there’s no need to pursue holiness and cultivate discipline in themselves, or radically alter and inconvenience their lifestyles in order to live a Christian life, particularly in the area of male sexuality.

But this is simply untrue. Christian men are more than conquerors and nothing is impossible with Christ. Furthermore, Timothy entreats men to “treat younger women as sisters with all puritybut only if they’re covered from the neck up and Galatians says to put down your flesh and walk in the spirt except in the area of male sexuality. Believing men are incapable of leading as the Bible commands diminishes the confidence God has in a man’s ability to lead in all areas, including that of self-control and self-discipline.

There’s nothing inherently sexual about the female body anyway. In Genesis, it was only after sin that Adam and Eve realized they were naked. Modesty standards vary widely across cultures and have changed throughout history – even today, in certain places only prostitutes wear sleeveless shirts.

Brian’s wife in a sleeveless shirt (obviously not calling her a prostitute)

Society has so oversexualized the female body, men can scarcely look at young women (because I doubt Brian cares if 80 year old Grandmas post bathing suit pictures online) any longer without lust, even when that woman isn’t doing anything particularly sexual. Disturbingly, Christian men seem to struggle in this area even more than their secular counterparts, which should be a giant red flag over how successful purity culture has been. Modesty rules are like putting a Band-Aid over gangrene. No matter how much gauze one uses, there’s still a dying, rotten limb under there that needs to be cut off. Brian’s attitude here, while at first glance seems harmless enough and even reasonable for Christians, insidiously reflects the church’s attitude overall. A church that has been unwillingly to deal with lust from a spiritual perspective, shifting the blame on women, and even children, when men fail to have self-control around them.

Now, lest anyone actually read my blog and call me a heathen, there is something in not intentionally causing others to stumble and that can apply to how one dresses. Paul in 1 Corinthians 8 talks about eating idol meat sold at the markets. To some, this meat is cheap hamburger, so they feast and are #blessed. To others, weak in their faith, it makes them think of sacrificing to idols and they should avoid eating it entirely. Paul goes on to say that a Christian who eats this meat and causes his brother to stumble, is sinning against God and therefore Paul would never use his freedom in such a way (and neither should we).

But the caveat here is these idol meat eaters are weak Christians and Brian is a pastor. Someone so weak in their faith that the mere sight of a woman’s stomach leads him astray really ought to not be leading any church, anywhere, in any part of the world. Like every other day some pastor is caught in some form of sexual sin ranging from cheating to child abuse. And no wonder when we keep putting men still battling their flesh so badly they can’t even look at midriffs online up on pulpits, directly in the path of all sorts of spiritual attacks. Self-control is evidence of a walk with God and certainly every tree that doesn’t bear good fruit should be cut down and thrown into the fire, or at the very least not propped on a stage every Sunday.

Certainly, as Christian women we should be sympathetic towards Christian men navigating today’s hypersexualized world, remembering that our bodies are temples and also the internet is forever. However, women are not responsible for men’s sexual purity, nor is there a Biblical basis to demand women hide themselves because men are physical/lustful/visual/etc. First and foremost, we do all for the glory of God not man. Also, I have hormones and think men are hot, yet I don’t see him advocating men stop posting topless pics of their abs online to help my virgin self remain pure.

On a serious note, this attitude sets men up to believe they’re victims of their mindsets and biology, helpless to do anything except hope they never see cleavage not belonging to their wife in their lifetimes. It diminishes a man’s ability to remain pure within themselves for themselves, but we know that God would not task men with the burden of leadership if they were truly incapable of leading in all areas. Following Christ often requires radical change and even discomfort, something men like Brian rarely advocate for. Those seeking true freedom should be willing to inconvenience themselves to live as Jesus did, setting aside their desires and picking up their own crosses. Men are fully capable of leading in areas of purity, patience, and self-control. Believing otherwise is not believing the very Bible upon which Brian’s faith is built upon.

Anyway, Brian went on some tangent I couldn’t be bothered to read fully, where he said “Christian, you are no longer totally depraved.”

True.

Men are Christ’s workmanship, tasked with spiritual authority and are fully capable of walking in purity without the help of women. This isn’t some poisonous, feminist, anti-patriarchy agenda or whatever he’s whining about, this is straight from the Bible.

Christians ought to be sober minded and alert, and especially aware of what the Bible really says so we’re not swayed by those posting hot takes on social media for retweets. Turn to the Word of God, not wannabe Christian influencers. Test everything with scripture, not culture, tradition, or opinions.

At the end of the day, there’s nothing wrong with wearing a bikini, taking a belly pic of your growing child, or wearing leggings. The female body isn’t something women should be ashamed of, nor a thing that needs to be covered up and hidden out of fear because God has not called us to a spirit of fear. As women, we are created in the image of God with much care, thought, intention, and beauty and if God found something inherently sinful about how He created us, He would’ve covered us with fur or crocodile skin. So whatever you wear, wear it for the glory of God not man. And if that happens to help your brothers in Christ not stumble, *thumbs up*.