Positive Masculinity: Stephen Ahn & Gray Yeon


Masculinity is hard to define, since most of it is rooted in cultural ideas which change over time, rather than Biblical truths. However, generally we associate manliness with trucks, beer, and guns working/being hard working, being logical/stoic as opposed to emotional, or being prone to outbursts of anger, being a provider and protector of the family unit, possessing raw physical strength, being handy with tools, etc. Toxic masculinity seems to describe when these masculine traits work to the detriment of men. For men, they’re often confined by these masculine ideas with the expectation they’ll live up to them, even if those things don’t come naturally, or it works to their disservice.

In fact, men are often shamed for expressing emotions besides anger, or made out to be weak for doing traditionally feminine tasks (gardening, caring for children, etc.) even though objectively nothing makes those tasks or emotions feminine and again ideas of masculinity have changed over the years. Even in the confines of romantic relationships where men are supposedly allowed to be tender, society will call men who outwardly display their affection whipped.

In fiction then we typically only see a man’s tender, more protective side via romance, which doesn’t hold true for women. The manwha Weak Hero balks at that idea, something I rambled about already as we see the boys of Weak Hero defy gender stereotypes by opening up to one another and acknowledging one another’s weaknesses whilst beating the life out of others. Still, I wanted to talk specifically about the positive masculinity between Saint Stephen Ahn and Gray Yeon.

If ever there was a quote that described Gray Yeon, the verse, “meaningless, meaningless, everything is meaningless,” comes to mind.

At least everything is meaningless until Gray meets Stephen Ahn.

Stephen is just built different. Even the kids in his class notice.

A panel from the manwha "Weak Hero". In it is a kid with brown hair, parted in the middle. The text bubbles from him say "What? He's loaded like that?"
A panel from the manwha "Weak Hero".  The picture contains the torso of a boy wearing a dark brown blazer, standing in front of a window with sunlight filtering in. The text bubble reads," Stephen Ahn was a peculiar guy."

But Gray and Stephen are two sides of the same coin. Gray is wholly focused on his studies despite finding little joy in them (or anything); he lives with no clear purpose or direction in life (same), no goals nor desires, just merely existing.

An image of a boy with gray hair looking dour. The text reads," I didn't know what I was supposed to do."
A panel from the manwha "Weak Hero".  The image is of a school-age boy with gray hair sitting at a desk, surrounding by books. Several over-sized hands are pointing down at him. The text reads," So I just did as I was told, like a fool."

Interestingly, Stephen doesn’t seem motivated by any strong goals or desires either besides being a saint keeping others happy.

A boy with brown hair. The text bubble reads, " So I guess it's some kind of self-satisfaction?"

For Gray, life is serious business – the only thing that matters is learning. For Stephen, life is a playground meant to be enjoyed and nothing is taken too seriously.

A boy with dark, brown hair lounging on the bed and studying for a test by reading a book. He wears a brown sweater. The text above his head reads, "I can smell what will be on this test?" The speech bubble reads, "like he was playing a game."

Still, it’s no surprise Stephen noticed Gray studying mindlessly – in Gray’s meaningless existence, he likely saw a darker, more sober reflection of himself.

The two soon become bros befor hoes amigos, finding joy in their relationship with one another (and video games).

A boy with gray hair wearing a slight smile. The text bubble reads," Was the one who completely filled,... the hole in my heart."

Alas, nothing good last forever!

A rogue Bryce Oh appears, or rather Saint Stephen takes Bryce under the shadow of his wing after noticing him solo. Bryce, the physical embodiment of everything Stephen isn’t: selfish, insecure, and cruel without reason. In contrast, Stephen’s sacrificial behavior makes others think of Jesus dying on the cross for them (lol).

This sacrificial love is most prominent towards Gray. After Bryce steal Gray’s home work for LOLz Stephen gives Gray his own, taking a beating from the trash teacher on his behalf and uttering what seems to be a prophetic statement.


Of course, Bryce’s petty behavior only escalates from there partially egged on by the validation he so desperately craves and gets from Oswald Yang, who’s wealthy and tough. We see some of Bryce’s resentment, and the reason why he turns on Stephen, most clearly when Bryce notices how the girls don’t pay any attention to him but only Stephen and Gray. Gray at least is good at something – he’s very smart, one of the top of his class. But in Bryce’s eyes Stephen is on the same level as him and not deserving of validation either. Coupled with his insecurities, it didn’t take much for Bryce’s ego to get scarred.

Oswald Tang mini HBIC of class begins bullying Stephen after Bryce spreads rumours about him wanting to throw hands, albeit bully seems almost too soft of a term, – really, they’re like torturing him. Consequently, Stephen ensures Oswald Yang’s attention remains on him and not the frail Gray by not putting up a fight. Given Bryce was “friends” with Stephen and turned on him violently as soon as his feelings got hurt (talk about toxic masculinity lol), it’s not outside the realm of possibility to believe the same could happen to Gray.

Side Note: There’s a slight implication in-text that Stephen probably could’ve adequately defended himself.

Physically Trash Bryce was weak af and there’s little evidence Oswald was like Wolf Keum/Jimmy Bae level strong – even his classmates seem surprised Oswald is suddenly “acting up”. Not only does Stephen get clobbered several times yet recovers quickly, we see him playing basketball and mentioning walking for exercise, giving the impression he’s in decent shape and relatively strong. Notably, Stephen never even tries to defend himself.

We see this lack of trying more metaphorically in Stephen’s ability to become the HBIC of class. If he tries, he gets the top spot. But he doesn’t (except to woo Gray). Applying this logic to his physical prowess, it’s reasonable to say had Stephen tried to defend himself, he likely would’ve been able to hold his own, or at least become enough of a hassle bullying him would be too much work.

Of course, Stephen doesn’t try solely to ensure Oswald’s attention remain on him.

Eventually Dumpsterwald Oswald tells Stephen if he gets the lowest grade in class, he’ll lay off. Whether that’s true or not, IDK. Nevertheless, Stephen rises to the top for the sake of Gray. This sacrifice culminates in him “falling” off the roof of a building. Whether pushed intentionally or not, seems somewhat irrelevant (though it does stand even Trashwald and his goons were genuinely shocked, so they likely didn’t actually mean for Stephen to fall).

Gray later visits Stephen at the hospital and there we see probably the most emotion he’s ever displayed aside from when he went ham on my boi Wolf.

Just as Gray saw light in Stephen and was changed by it, did Stephen see a light in Gray and was drawn to that? Or was Stephen merely alone, even until the very end, and seeking some sort of companionship as a result of that solitude?

Alas! We’ll likely never know. Stephen (if he’s still alive) was brain dead and unlikely to ever recover. Gray has a new harem of True Companions.

Weak Hero has many good examples of positive masculinity (it has toxic examples too lmao), but it displays the beauty of male friendships and how men can bring the best out of one another, rather than the worst. Stephen exemplifies the very best version of masculinity, or as my favorite book says,“[g]reater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” (John 15:13).

References: SEOPASS/RAZEN Weak HeroLine Webtoon/Naver, 2019. Digital.

Biblical Clownery: Beach Preacher Logan Dorn

Logan Downbad Dorn approached a bunch of young ladies wearing bikinis on the beach (imagine that) and harassed them over said bikinis.

Biblical Clownery is when individuals try to justify clown-ish behavior using the Bible. This includes quoting verses out of context to make a point, cherry-picking scripture, or twisting the meaning of something in order defend and/or justify their actions/reactions.

Case in point:

Biblical Clownery typically comes at the expense of scripture that contradicts what they’re trying to prove, scripture in general, or scripture that gives important context in terms of understanding what’s being said. It’s often accompanied with a dose of hypocrisy and a claim to be “speaking hard truths” when actually they’re just being jerks.

Jesus said there will be many who preach in His name (Matthew 7:21-23), but aren’t Christians. Fortunately, the Bible says they’ll know us by our fruits.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. (Galatians 5:22-23, NKJV)

When in doubt, look at the fruit and when a tree isn’t bearing good fruit, the Bible says cut it down, or as the kids nowadays say, ‘we don’t claim him’.

To nitpick Logan’s actions and why they’re clown-ish, after realizing these ladies weren’t going to just quietly sit there and be shamed, Logan rambles about free will whilst ignoring the lady who reminds him Jesus told men to not look at women as “pornogropahy”, but if they do it’s better to gouge their eyes out (the female body isn’t pornographic anyway so Logan’s mind is sick. It doesn’t help these girls look 12. So, this adult man went over to what could’ve been literal children and called them pornographic and is now claiming God sent him over there. That’s sus, dude).

His excuse for harassing these young women?

The sight of them filled him with righteous anger.

Let’s just camp there for a moment.

Think about all the problems in the world – hunger, violence and abuse, exploitation of the poor, human trafficking, greed. Now imagine out of all those things, young women in bikinis on the beach is what fills you with righteous anger and is the reason morality is declining in the world.


Next, he claims to be speaking “truth” but nowhere does the Bible tell women to cover up if men look at them lustfully, so what “truth”? He eventually attempts to preach likely after realizing he’s a creep and poorly quotes Jesus words, “[i]t would be better for them to be thrown into the sea with a millstone tied around their neck than to cause one of these little ones to stumble.” Even though initially he says it’s about other men, now it’s “think of the children!!”

Some woman (likely sensing things were going south) appears and says value thyself while in a bikini.

For context, you can see what these ladies were wearing here…


@Logan Dorn sir this is not the way to “spread the word”. Spread love instead. Get well soon. #harrassement #feminism #beaches

♬ original sound – Mia

Pretty standard bathing suits (also it appears they were an all female group; wonder if he would’ve approached them had they been with males – the answer is no.)

Anyway, Logan defended himself (poorly). (He also deleted his original Tik Tok video)

He plays off his bad behavior as righteous anger even making up some fanfiction about children of very specific ages being bothered, which if you listen to ggarbagefairy’s video, his initial reason was that other men might be bothered

First, the female body isn’t sexual. God created Adam and Eve nude so if there was something inherently sinful about nudity He would’ve clothed them on sight. The American church’s current view of the female body is the result of sin and cultural conditioning. The issue isn’t women wearing thongs, it’s that culture has sexualized every part of the female body where consequently men can hardly look at an attractive, young women simply lying on the beach and not think sexual thoughts – ironically, this seems to be particularly bad in the church. However, Christians are to walk by the Spirit, and not the flesh (Galatians 5…). Therefore, Christian men like Logan should die to themselves and view women in purity regardless of what they’re wearing. That he claims God sent him over there indicates he was following his flesh, not God. If God had really sent him over there, it wouldn’t have been because of their clothing.

Second, holding non-Christians to Christian standards is stupid. As he had no evidence these women were Christians, to hold them to his personal standards is ridiculous particularly without first preaching the Gospel to them. It’s the love of God that leads us to repentance (Romans 2:3-4), not judgement and condemnation. Therefore, if his intentions were to share the Gospel, he would’ve first approached them with love. All his current TikTok #iloveyou #Godlovesu is an attempt at revisionist history to make it seem like his intentions were to evangelize them all along and he simply got tripped up over his words in the moment.

Anyway, those who wanted to stone the woman caught in adultery were not without sin and thus had no room to condemn her. Likewise, Logan can miss me with this holier than thou attitude, or in the words of Jesus, take the speck out of your own eye first, ya pervy hypocrite.

Third, the Bible puts the onus of lust on the luster.

You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to depart into hell.

So the sinner here is Logan who committed adultery. His righteous anger was misguided and ought to have been directed at himself.

Besides the fact this Clown was on the beach and should expect to see people in various states of undress, the lady from his fanfic had the correct response to feeling uncomfortable: move.

If he really felt outraged, he could’ve left. (also, notice how in ggarbagefairy’s video he says he’s not bothered, but later claims to be filled with righteous anger – so which is it? Cause lying is a sin too, brother). Anyway, I can respect those who sacrifice personal comforts to live a Godly life. Consequently, he could’ve preached a decent message on how he struggles with porn/lust and seeing women in bikinis triggers him, so he peaced out Joseph-and-Potiphar’s-wife style and encourages others to do likewise. Sadly, that’s not what he did.

Last, at worst, he should’ve sent his girlfriend over there. The lady at the end (in a bikini) was able to deliver a similar message (in a bikini) more kindly even if she was in a bikini and needed to mind her own business. I just can’t with this pathetic version of masculinity Christian men have been displaying lately. To harass a group of young women over what they’re wearing is pitiful.

True Biblical masculinity is serving others in love, displaying the fruits of the Spirit which includes self-control, kindness, and gentleness, not being prone to anger or outbursts, not engaging in worldly matters, not gossiping or slandering, turning the other cheek when someone wrongs you, and laying down your life for others.

Furthermore, the highest goal as Christians is to spread the good news of Jesus Christ. It’s clear Logan Van Dorn didn’t approach these ladies with any intention but to shame them for turning him on – his poor attempt at evangelizing came merely as an afterthought and his very words reveal his own lust. Again, “…the love of Christ compels us [to share the gospel] because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died.” (2 Corinthians 5:14, NIV)

It’s important to not get sucked into Biblical Clownery like purity culture. There’s a place for modesty and it’s fine to consider how we can help others, but modesty isn’t limited to what one wears and the intention is to honor God, not coddle weak-willed men who can’t keep their eyes and hands to themselves, and placate their jealous fiancées.

To his semi-credit, Logan did sort of apologize in a “sorry I offended you” way and only after it was clear practically no one was on his side (which apologizing only because you’re being called out isn’t a genuine apology). Logan can #jesuslovesyou youth pastor-lite #Godisfaithful #iwasbroken sermon all day (also lol @ nay a single scripture being quoted in his entire “I’m sorry” video. But sure, go off in Jesus’ name). Ultimately, his own words revealed his heart and it was not one that desired to see those young ladies come to know Christ.

If he’s really a Christian, he’ll humble himself and truly repent, acknowledging his own lust and publicly apologizing properly, both to God and to these young ladies, for acting like a fool in the name of Jesus.

To end, Logan should probably take his own advice…

And actually try looking like Jesus.

Positive Masculinity: Bros of Weak Hero

*Contains S1 Spoilers*

Minus all the incredible beat-downs, the positive relationships between the boys of Weak Hero is it’s high point. This positivity is seen most clearly via Gray, Ben, Eugene, Alex, Rowan, and Gerard; they’re a great example of men being traditionally masculine without the toxicity. By “masculine”, I’m talking in the stereotypical, cultural sense here as in possessing raw strength, being a provider/protector, being goal-oriented, and logical/stoic, sometimes being hot-headed and prone anger/impulsive behavior.

Toxic masculinity has become quite the buzzword nowadays, describing everything from rape culture to dudes who like big, loud trucks. One way in which masculinity is indeed toxic is the expectation that men be The Stoic: emotionless, always chill unless they’re expressing anger (can you spell G r a y Y e o n?)

Typically in entertainment (whether it’s books, webtoons, manga, movies, or television), romantic love brings out the tender side of man. But that’s not the case with Weak Hero. Notably, there’s an absence of women (and romance) in general here (shout-out to silver-haired glasses girl tho). In Weak Hero all the relationships between the characters are platonic. Yet, in the absence of romance, the author of Weak Hero shows us the beauty of male friendships and how they can change men for the better.

1.  The bros use their strength to protect one another

No need for any damsels in distress, the boys of Weak Hero will cross the entire city on foot just to save one another. Interestingly, Ben ft. crew don’t really initiate many fights unless pushed and primarily throw hands to defend one another. In fact, Ben is so laid-back his reputation as the HBIC of Eunjang High is questioned more than once throughout the story.

Contrast Ben to Jimmy Bae, who picks fights with randos just because they’re wimps, or Wolf Keum who’ll throw hands because someone glanced his way for 3 seconds. Often, the strong use their strength to push around the weak. But not Ben ft. crew – they’re good guys who (mostly) only bust out those hands when their friends are in danger.

2. The bros aren’t afraid to get in their feelings

Gray gives one of his rare smiles around Ben (something that has everyone shooketh), and it’s to Ben that Gray opens up about his past after Ben repeatedly pursues a friendship with him.

Ben’s bffffffl Alex Go conceals his beat down by Jimmy simply because he doesn’t want Ben getting hurt, Gerard insists on fighting Jake Kim to prevent him from going after Ben (ironically, Jake targets Gerard knowing the only way to get Ben to fight for realz is if he curb stomps one of his amigos first).

In the absence of romance, it’s good, old-fashioned friendship that reveals the bros softer, more protective feelings. Furthermore, it isn’t to a woman that Gray opens up to manic pixie girl style, but to Ben. #bromance

3. The bros change others for the better

Teddy Jin is initially introduced as your typical bully until getting coked out whooped by Gray and unceremoniously kicked out of Phillip Kim’s squad. He soon finds a cat and bonds with Eugene over it, then he’s inadvertently roped into helping Gray’s crew in a fight, sealing his face-heel-turn.

Teddy’s an interesting case – it’s clear he and Chad were homies yet the moment Teddy lost, he’s ostracized. On the flip side, neither Gray nor any of the others hold the fact Teddy got clobbered against him, but allow him to integrate into the crew, fight alongside them, and even hang out casually.

4. The bros pursue one another

Gray isn’t really interested in friendships at the story’s beginning, but that doesn’t dissuade Ben or Eugene from reaching out to him, repeatedly inviting him to things, lending him a hand, etc. even after getting rejected several times.

When Gray finally accepts their invitation to Netflix and chill, the boys invite him to the rooftop. Except Gray doesn’t do rooftops; the boys never ask why, convince him to change his mind, or make fun of him. They simply find a different place to hang out.

5. The bros don’t knock one another for being weak

Phillip Kim gets curb stomped by Gray and loses all clout; predating that is Teddy Jin’s and Helmet’s smack-downs . Donald Na regularly pimp slaps those who don’t do what he wants (Wolf Keum). Jared Sun is garbage and deserved to get whooped. Also, screw Bryce Oh – he deserved death. Often, those who aren’t strong are kicked out of their respective groups, or punished, simply for being weak. But that’s not the case with Ben ft. crew.

Eugene isn’t very strong (though he does have fleeting moments of bravery), yet the others keep him in the crew and hang out with him, even when he’s not doling out shuttle patch information. Alex and Gerard get whooped a number of times by various individuals, yet they’re never in danger of losing relationships over it because their friendship isn’t based on what one can do for the other, but just good, old-fashioned camaraderie.

All in all, Weak Hero is a great example of positive masculinity and positive male friendships in general. Boys will be boys, but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing – rather, the bros of Weak Hero show us how boys can be both strong and sensitive; protective and caring, without the influence of women, or romantic love in general. The bros are a great example of what masculinity can look like: a man who uses his strength to protect those in need even at the expense of himself.

As the Bible says, “a man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” Fortunately, the bros of Weak Hero have found that brother in one another.

I also rated the Bad Boy of Weak Hero (if you’re extra bored)

References: SEOPASS/RAZEN Weak Hero. Line Webtoon/Naver, 2019. Digital.