Bethany of Girl Defined is Problematic (and Greedy)

Which isn’t sound very God-honoring.

I’ve been wanting to do a critique on Girl Defined in the style of Brittany Dawn for a while but alas, just don’t have the time while trying to 100% complete Forbidden West.

That said, Bethany Beal of Girl Defined is not very Christ-like. She’s currently complaining about free gifts people have sent her.

“Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.” — 1 Thessalonians 5:18. While I’m certain Paul was probably talking about Christians being imprisoned, burned at the stake, and chopped in half for preaching the gospel here, this verse could easily apply to someone attempting to give you a backpack listed on your own registry. For free.

Furthermore, she’s fighting with people online who (rightfully) point out that saying she’d rather roast herself like a hot dog than work 9-5 is stupid.

Lying is one of the 7 deadly sins. I doubt if given the option between being grilled for cannibal meat and working a normal job, she would choose to roast. Secondly, doubling down rather than either turning the other cheek, or apologizing for making it seem like working is a bad thing (because there’s no reason to degrade someone else’s profession just to uplift your own), is deliberately stirring strife. Something Christians ought not to do. The Bible say, “[t]hey were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless.” Does she really look at behavior and thinks it’s honoring God? Especially when this behavior is right up there with murder?

Despite Girl Defined building their brand on being Godly, Bethany is nothing but. Her family is relatively wealthy, and she runs an Instagram account called sheworkssmart selling 3k courses and boasting about how much money she makes.

Yes, she’s not only begging her followers for gifts instead of throwing a baby shower, but also bragging about having added things for her current son to her unborn child’s registry. If she’s making as much money as she’s claiming to be, why does she need other people to buy her gifts? Charity is a tenet of Christianity, so if anything she ought to bless her followers with her abundance of wealth. And while she’d no doubt say something like “oh these people just blessed me out of the goodness of their heart”, she wouldn’t have posted her registry publicly if she didn’t want to guilt her followers into buying her stuff.

Hebrews says, “[k]eep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have…” and Proverbs says “[b]etter is a poor man who walks in his integrity than a rich man who is crooked in his ways.” Sure, while there aren’t any explicit Bible verses saying don’t exploit the people who support you into funding your own lifestyle, it goes without saying her behavior is shady and selfish at best, downright sinful at worst.

Christians shouldn’t be known for their grifting but for their generosity. Yet, in all my time following Bethany, I don’t recall ever seeing her even do like a $20 Starbucks gift card giveaway. It’s quite telling that at nearly every opportunity to be generous Bethany (and the rest of Girl Defined) choose to focus only on themselves and their needs. Time and time again, they’ve had opportunities to show true, sacrificial charity like Jesus did and yet, they not only fail but are smug and boastful about it.

For all Bethany’s poetic waxing about not finding your identity in gender and how we’re not the king of our lives, perhaps she should read the Bible a bit more closely. After all, it’s not the love of self that’s the root of all evil but the love of money.

Christian Influencer Thinks Assault Is Okay If You’re Dressed Immodestly

At what point are people going to start quoting the Bible and not their personal opinions?

Frankly, I find Solie Osorio sort of hilarious because she’s like not even 25, yet speaks as if she has some wealth of knowledge to share about marriage, children, etc. Job 12:12 says, “[w]isdom is with aged men, [a]nd with length of days, understanding.” Surely the Lord can and does empower young people with wisdom, but Solie is not wise, nor is what she’s saying backed with scripture. Fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, but that wisdom will never contradict or add to the Word of God either.

And nowhere in the Bible does God put the blame of grape (lol) on what someone is wearing. In fact, God basically says stone rapists in Deuteronomy. Adultery was also punishable by death for both the man and the woman, and this would include looking at pornography, or lusting after a woman. Porneia is a Greek word that basically means any sexual activity and is used in the Bible several times. Since all sexual activity outside of marriage is forbidden, if Solie was truly interested in being Biblically accurate here and not just sexist, she would blame both the man lusting and the woman dressed immodestly equally in her post. Tellingly, she does not which reveals this is just another pick-me type post, or worst some sort of trolling attempt, which is not very Godly and not what Christians should be known for online.

The Bible is what our faith is based upon and when Christians are consistently preaching things with nay a Bible verse in sight, that’s a red flag. Scrolling through Solie’s Instagram, 90% of it is personal opinions with sporadic Bible verses out of context. Troubling that she has such a large following of Christians when very little of what she says is backed by Scripture. It’s why it’s crucial to read your Bible daily and familiarize yourself with the Word of God, so when people preach Biblical clownery you already know what God has said.

In Matthew, Jesus puts the blame of lust squarely on the shoulders of those who are lusting. Jesus says not once, but twice to pluck your eyeballs out if you have an issue with lust. I’m not against dressing modestly even though Solie and I would probably disagree on what dressing modestly means. But I do have a lot of sympathy (particularly as I’m a very visual lady myself and no cap, I like looking at shirtless, hot men lol) towards men who are struggling in our hypersexualized culture. So I agree generally that as women (and men) we shouldn’t dress provocatively – just not for the sake of man, but because rather to honor the Lord.

That said, modesty teachings are the lazy way out of fostering self-control, particularly in regards to male sexuality. This is none more evident than among Christian men who seem even weaker than their secular counterparts in this area. Jesus says they will know us by our fruits; Galatians lists “self-control” as one of the fruits of the Spirit. Thus, evidence that one is actually a Christian isn’t in how they dress, how closely they follow gender roles, how early they marry and have kids, but rather in the fruit they produce. This is why Jesus further warns against wolves in sheep’s clothing – those that look the part but underneath all their prairie dresses, sourdough breads, and Christianese are actually producing bad fruit. Consequently, it’s perfectly reasonable to expect Christian men, who are tasked as being spiritual leaders (and this includes leading in the fruits of the Spirit) to exhibit self-control. Not only is it an expectation, but it’s the clearest evidence that a person is actually a Christian and not just using religion to live a certain lifestyle.

Nonsense like this discourages men from fostering self-control and is frankly the opposite of what the Bible actually says – in fact, it feels very boys will be boys, which is a very secular attitude. Here, modesty and purity culture serve as a band-aid to lust, and inevitably we’ll see Christian pastors and other prominent Christian men falling to sexual sin again and again, and Christians are always shooketh. But it’s nothing more than the fruit of what modesty and purity culture has produced over the years, which is telling. If one never learns to discipline themselves in the way of self-control, than they will stumble the minute they encounter anything outside of their carefully curated world of modesty, no leggings, and no cleavage. And as Christians we are told to be in the world, not of the world. But how are Christians to be in the world when they can’t even stand the sight of a woman in leggings?

Christians like Solie, Dale Partridge, and Owen Strachan’s answer to this is telling women to cover up and hide the way God literally made them. Again, a band-aid and these teachings are evidence of a lack of self-control in their own lives. Troubling because many of these folks are in authority over others. Yet the amount of times I’ve seen the women shouldn’t wear leggings debate brought up by Christians is remarkable. Far more time is spent telling women not to dress a certain way so that men don’t lust after them, which isn’t even in the Bible, as opposed to telling men to foster self-control, which is in the Bible. But ya know, the latter actually requires one to be a Christian and not just cosplaying as one, and I have a feeling a good many popular Christian influencers fall in the the second category.

Dressing modestly is great but it’s not the answer to lust. Nothing gives anyone else the right to assault them, whether they’re naked, or dressed like the Amish. And as for my dear sister in Christ, Solie, she may want to spend some time looking at the *probably should include a trigger warning* What I was Wearing Exhibit, and of course, a little more time reading her Bible.

You’re Not Shadowbanned, Your Content Just Sucks

The amount of primarily Christian or conservatives, female influencers I’ve stumbled across claiming to be shadowbanned whilst posting mid to boring content exploiting their children as part of their “ministry” is hilarious.

It’s no grand secret, nor conspiracy theory, that Instagram is in kahoots with Tik Tok (and YouTube with their “shorts”) to nuke our attention spans by forcing Reels upon us all, and they have done so by rewarding influencers who post short videos, or Reels. The algorithm simply isn’t pushing pictures as much, which is unfortunate because if I wanted to view Tik Toks, I would literally go on Tik Tok. I am (obviously) not on Tik Tok, because I want to look at pictures. I’m going to bet the majority of people using Instagram agree – like what is with social media companies trying to be alike?

That said, again this isn’t being shadowbanned and it’s not some grand leftist conspiracy to silence Christian voices for sharing views roughly half the population of the USA shares with them. One could talk to almost anyone, secular or not, who’s job is to exploit their children, spouses, and livelihoods for money (in the name of Jesus, of course) any influencer, and they will all probably say the same thing. Unless one possesses an extremely engaged fanbase (which usually doesn’t apply to influencers since most people probably only casually follow them), pictures aren’t going to pull a ton of numbers.

But rest assured, I will keep the faith by both refusing to create Reels and also by only liking pictures on Instagram. I will even go the extra step of hiding as many Reels as possible from my explore page. I will continue reporting ads on my main feed as spam (though I know I do this in vain)

Stay strong, my brothers and sisters. Resist the devil Reels and hopefully they’ll disappear.